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i nor anyone else is your goddamn punchline. u might not preach hate but haters, abusers, phobic, racist people are laughing w you bc they think u support their ideals. so stop fucking laughing or at least stop defending the jokes. i literally have zero time or tolerance for this.
Thank you for the suggestion~! : D It could definitely be helpful for some people~
Nothing will fuck up your twenties more than thinking you’re supposed to have your shit together.
(2/2) bringing up deeply rooted memories and triggers for me such as bringing up my home life situation(something that will bring me to tears just thinking about) and saying that it happened because I’m “an over privileged piece of trash” and stating that he’s better than me because “[he] can get someone to love [him] while [i] can’t” just because he’s not part of the “majority”. I don’t want to call him out on it because I realize that I am more privileged than him although he is white while (sorry I didn’t expect this to be that long) - he’s white and I’m not, but it’s becoming too much because i have a horrible depression that I’m trying my best to overcome but…I just don’t wanna seem like a whiny little cis girl. Should I tell him something? Although I know it’s not technically my place to do so…I just honesty don’t know what to do, Wren.
You can definitely call him out on triggering you by bringing up your home life, and personal memories. That has nothing to do with him being trans, and has nothing to do with him venting about his oppressors. If he genuinely thinks you are “trash,” then why is he hanging around you? Why is he hurting you in ways that don’t relate to your privilege over him as a cis person? Why isn’t he considering that, in certain aspects of life (such as race) he has privilege over you? It sounds as though he’s kind of just keeping you around to abuse you, and using his status as a marginalized person as a cover for it (which is uncommon, but does, unfortunately, happen at times). This isn’t a healthy relationship for you to maintain, and I firmly believe that you need to drop him.
As for your other friendships, yes, it’s incredibly important that you continue to listen to trans people, and understand their need to vent about their oppressors, and their experiences (and listen to them when they call you out on your mistakes pertaining to gender/sex), but that doesn’t mean you have to allow anyone to be cruel to you about unrelated issues (like your home life, or your depression), because that’s honestly just not necessary, it’s unrelated, and it’s not okay.
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Ah, golly, thanks~! You’re very kind, Anon. >///< I hear it sometimes, but it’s never unwelcome. I could use the encouragement these days~